“How can we gain this Habit?”
By abiding in HIM and HIS word!! That is daily abiding in HIM! This habit may not come over night (certainly hasn’t for me) BUT by the grace of God it is coming!!!
1. Daily Seek God by prayer and reading His word
2. Cry out to Him in the ‘moment’ you know you could ‘lose it”
3. Hold on to a specific scripture throughout the day, repeating it over and over
4. Offer up ‘Thanks’ to God in the moment you know you could “lose it”
5. Have a running conversation with Him through the day
6. Play Christian music during your day
7. Listen to the Word during your day (Audio)
Below is some WORD to abide in.
1 “I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. 2 Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit He takes away;[a] and every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit. 3 You are already clean because of the word which I have spoken to you. 4 Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me. “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing. 6 If anyone does not abide in Me, he is cast out as a branch and is withered; and they gather them and throw them into the fire, and they are burned. 7 If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will[b] ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you. 8 By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be My disciples. John 15
Ephesians 4:29Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it.
Proverbs 15:28The mind of the [uncompromisingly] righteous studies how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things
Ephesians 4:26When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down.
James 1:19Understand [this], my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear [a ready listener], slow to speak, slow to take offense and to get angry.
Peoverbs 16:24Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the mind and healing to the body.
Proverbs 15:1A SOFT answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger
He who has knowledge spares his words, And a man of understanding is of a calm spirit. Proverbs 17:27
A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel. Proverbs 15:18
He got up and rebuked the wind and the raging waters; the storm subsided, and all was calm. “Where is your faith?” he asked his disciples. In fear and amazement they asked one another, “Who is this? He commands even the winds and the water, and they obey him.” Luke 8:25
A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. Proverbs 14:29
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,……Galatians 5:22
“Teach me, and I will be quiet; show me where I have been wrong. Job 6:24
The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools. Ecclesiates 9:17
The fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17
Other Sources that you might find helpful (spiritual, parenting, etc):
Holy Experience
Audio Bible
Bible Gateway
Doorpost Chart Set
Doorpost main website
Book: Parenting with Scripture
Free Book: Successful Parenting: God’s Way—I have not read this yet but since it’s free I am going to check it out
If you have any ideas, tips, resources to help someone gain this habit of remaining calm please leave a comment with the information!!!! Don’t forget to let me know if you want prayer in this area. Thank You!! Let us all choose to REST in HIM no matter the circumstances of our lives!
Tricia says
Angie thanks for this! I have a ‘watchword’ framed by my kitchen sink “set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips” – Psalm 141:3 and from our Sing the Word cd “A soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger” Proverbs 15:1
Angie says
Tricia, Thanks for the reminder of those scriptures! Being reminded of those reminded me of a couple of others I meant to add to my post SO I just added them =) The boys and I are working on memorizing most of the above scriptures to help each of us REMAIN CALM!!!
Kendra says
Thank you Angie for stepping on my toes in return 🙂 I read this only moments after I lost my cool with my kids. I need to remember that their sinful behavior does not excuse my own. When I am angry with them, I need to remember to step away and go to the Lord with my emotions so I can present to my kids a calm and quiet spirit. You are definitely not alone in this struggle!
Angie says
Oh, Kendra what you said “I need to remember that their sinful behavior does not excuse my own”, is so true!! I tell myself that all the time!!! I also remind myself that if I want “right” choices from them I have to make right choices also!I have to show them it is possible to live out God’s commandments!!! Through Faith and much Grace!!! =)
Nonenowalia says
Fantastic, very great subject. I will blog about it likewise!