This idea has been inspired by some previous posts here at Habits, as well as my recent realization that I have completely dropped the ball when it comes to teaching my children manners. Of course they know the basics of please, thank you, and you’re welcome, but there is so much we have missed. It was time to build the habit of Manners Monday.
So, instead of adding one more thing to our already full school day, we decided that this is the perfect opportunity to incorporate Kerri’s idea of a special dinner night once a week. We’ll get out the wedding china, which my kids have never had the opportunity to use. We’ll use a tablecloth and cloth napkins, and as Angie suggested in her teatime article, we’ll make learning manners a fun occasion.
Why Monday? Well, because I like a catchy title. Really it just works out that Monday is the day that we are all most likely to be home and the day that we are least likely to have company over.
We’ll start with the basics of table manners and go from there, keeping our special dinner night as a perfect opportunity to practice what we’ve learned. Then we’ll add in other social graces. Maybe one night after dinner we’ll play a game where we practice good telephone manners. Maybe another night we’ll write letters or thank you notes to friends and family. Since I’m raising a houseful of little gentlemen, we’ll also incorporate lessons on how to treat little ladies.
I’m not going to pretend to be an etiquette expert. In fact, my husband and I are both looking forward to learning along with our kids. I’m currently searching for some good books on the subject of manners, but here are a few internet resources I’ve come across:
- What’s Cooking America has a very thorough article on dining etiquette.
- At Life123, I found articles covering everything from thank you notes to texting etiquette.
- Family Education has several articles about teaching manners to children.
- Manners Made Easy Review at The Curriculum Choice.
If you know of any good books on the subject of etiquette, please share them here. I’m only beginning to scratch the surface on what materials are available.
-originally published January 2010
I love the Monday Manners alliteration! What a great habit to practice.
I stumbled across a Christian Miss Manners in the bookstore last year. June Moore of Moore Manners has a website. You can sign up for a tip of the week, kindly delivered to your inbox – one habit for the week!
Thank you, m’am for this reminder.
Great idea! Here is a book that I have and this post remided me that I need to pull it out =) Everyday Graces: A Child’s Book of Good Manners. It uses literature to teach manners
I have just been telling myself the last couple of weeks that I have to start Tea Time’s again. We unfortunately(sp?) got out of the habit =(
Thank you Tricia for the link!! =)
I love this idea Kendra. I may try this with my kids. Josh has been asking lately if we can use the “good silverware” so Manners Monday would be the perfect occasion to get it out. The fact that it happens every Monday might make me actually do it since it’s already planned. Thanks!
Love this idea!
there is a dick and jane book of manners that is very thorough and modern book
Thank you for this fun idea. Connoisseur Kids is a great book for teaching etiquette and manners. I’m looking forward to checking out these other resources.
Kari Vanhoozer says
My Little Golden Book of Manners- A Little Golden Book (1962)
Connoisseur Kids: Etiquette, Manners, and Living Well for Parents and Their Little Ones by Jennifer Scott (2019)
books that depict characters with good manners like MILLY MOLLY MANDY or LITTLE WOMEN.
Habits we have worked on (one a month): kindER in SeptembER, when you want something from a sibling put them first and say “When you are done with that toy, I would like.”